Suffer In Silence

Why do some people suffer in silence? 

Because crying never fixed anything and no one wants to see you cry.

People suffer in silence, not because they enjoy suffering, but because that's all that life has put in their plates. I have known a lot of persons, and seen a lot of personal stories. 

My conclusion is, people are suffering. And they do so in silence because no one cares. 

If someone tells that he cares, trust you me, it's just for show. 

Many people have been to counsellors and regretted later because it ended up disastrously. 

Sharing your problem is like digging your own grave. When you share your problem: 

1. You'll be the talk of the town. 

2. The person listening doesn't care. 

3. The person listening is enjoying your suffering. 

4. The person listening is not in a position to help. 

5. You are becoming a pain in the neck, because other people have problems too. 

6. You are wasting your time, and other people's time as well. 

According to what we were taught, a problem shared is half solved. 

From experience, many people who suffer in silence have realised that a problem solved is doubled. Which is why you either keep it in and hide it in a corner of your heart or pour it to your dearest diary. 

You never know what intentions another person has.

Many of us can resonate with the famous saying by Lou Holtz,

“Never tell your problems to anyone. 20% don’t care and the other 80% are glad you have them.”

It is our natural tendency to carve out connections during our tough times. Frustrated by a particular situation, we all seek a shoulder to cry on.

But it is important to ask yourself if you are choosing the right person to share your problems with? The worst-case when you decide to share your problems with people is, they get to know the negative aspects of your life and they can share it with others.

What if the friend you are seeking relationship advice from, telling her about your issues with your man is wishing secretly for you to have a breakup? What if this colleague you are complaining to about your manager secretly reports you to the same person?

The least you would want in a troublesome situation is, that the whole world gets to know about your problem. Sharing your information with the wrong person can turn the situation more frustrating for you which is something you definitely don’t want.

This is why it is necessary for you to think if the person you are pouring your heart out to is worth it. If you don’t feel it, it is better to keep your matters private and try to solve them on your own.

After all, if you keep a lively cheer and take good care of yourself, no one will realise you are suffering, thus no one will subject you to public opinions.

And so we suffer in silence.